Monday, June 05, 2006

Attack on Reason

This new attack on reason has left me feeling defeated, demoralized, disappointed, disillusioned and despondent. As hard as I try, I just can’t see how legalizing same-sex marriage would be an attack on anything, let alone an "attack on marriage." I can’t see how it would have any impact on my own life or my own marriage or anyone else's for that matter. I can’t see any disadvantages to it for anyone. I can’t see how banning it would make things any better for anyone. My company recognizes domestic partnerships between two consenting adults regardless of sexual orientation. My marriage is still intact.

I was legally married to a member of the opposite sex in 1984. We were married in a Methodist Church by an ordained minister of that faith. That marriage was recognized by the US government and by The Methodist Church, and (presumably) received God’s blessing. It resulted in 3 children. The marriage failed and I was legally divorced in 1996. There were many reasons as to why this happened, but the prospect of legalizing gay marriage or even the mere existence of same-sex couples was irrelevant.

I have since remarried. Again to a woman. This time I was married in a government building by a judge. Not so surprisingly, the existence of same-sex couples married or not has not been a factor in the success of my current happy marriage either.

The point? My marriage is recognized by the US government, but it (presumably) didn’t receive God’s blessing. I am legally married as defined by the laws of our (barely) secular nation, but I don’t believe most churches recognize my marriage. I know the Catholic Church doesn't. This suits me and most likely them just fine. Churches are not forced to recognize legal marriages. I’m not only comfortable with this arrangement – I’m thrilled with it. Churches are free to believe in any stupid superstition they care to believe in and I'm free to reject their idiocy. Churches preach lies as truth and label truth as fiction every day. The fact is, I'm legally married. Their opinion of my maritial status is irrelevant. This is called "Freedom of Religion" and this is why the forefathers were careful to create the "wall of separation between church and state."

Same-sex marriage is no more a threat to other peoples’ marriages than my opposite-sex marriage. Discrimination is wrong. Organized, concerted discrimination for political gain as currently being practiced by The President and his minions in the Republican Party is despicable, disgusting, deplorable and demeaning.


Blogger Chuck Champion said...

Oooga booga gay marriage is scary!

I'm so damn tired of being the right wing's whipping boy, I can hardly lift my fingers one more time to write this. Exhausting work being a Threat To Traditional Marriage.

4:24 PM  
Anonymous blue girl said...

chuck champion, I'm sorry you're the whipping boy.

They're just using it. It's not really supposed to go anywhere.

I think lots of people are seeing through it this time.


9:23 PM  
Blogger fgfdsg said...

"despicable, disgusting, deplorable and demeaning"?

Has there ever been something this current administration has been involved in that hasn't been one of those already?

Yeah, based on evidence I'd say a Levee Break has a better chance of destroying your life than two matrimonial-minded 'mos.

10:51 PM  
Blogger Chuck Champion said...

Blue Girl, thanks -- and sorry for the (brief) self-pity.

I *know* it's not supposed to go anywhere, and I can see that more and more folks see through it all the time. And I recognize (from nearly 40 years out of the closet) just how far we have come. But I guess the congruency of the 25th anniversary since we first started recognizing AIDS, with the gay-baiting going on in the name of marriage, Kinda Got To Me. My twin brother David and his partner Billy were, before their deaths of AIDS in 1989, more "married" than most of those homophobes will ever know. (They actually did it up proud in the local Metropolitan Community Church, matching tuxedos and soprano soloist and the mother of the, erm, groom (?), and a faaaabulous reception). And had we accorded their union the legal and social recognition it deserved, such recognition would have threatened no one else's marriage -- only given the rest of us one more sterling example of how to do a difficult and challenging and rewarding and sustaining and nourishing mutual dance for real.

Then top off this ill-timed and ill-conceived congruence with the other current top Congressional priorty, repeal of the estate tax at a 10-year cost of $1 trillion -- as I, along with too many others gay and straight and all other manner of orientation and expression in-between and beyond, face the deepening cuts in Medicaid and AIDS drug assistance and the lack of an effective health care policy that might truly help those in need -- well, I could USE that trillion dollars, ya know?

That said, I am happy beyond belief at the blogosphere's broad outpouring in opposition to this Congressional hate-mongering. Now I'm gonna go and wave a sign at my highway exit in support of Francine Busby's campaign: today is special election day in North San Diego County, and we may yet win one this week.

4:20 PM  
Blogger XTCfan said...

There you go again, Al, using logic to prove a point. When are you going to realize the futility of this approach in today's political climate?

Good luck, Chuck! I hope FB can pull this one off ... it would bode well for this November, mebbe.

5:27 PM  
Blogger The Viscount LaCarte said...

There you go again, Al, using logic to prove a point. When are you going to realize the futility of this approach in today's political climate?

I know, I should read the Jonathan Swift quote at the top of my blog every morning to remind myself.

Hey CC, thanks for the comments and for visiting The Viscount's.

6:09 PM  
Blogger Chuck Champion said...

Yer welcome, Viscount ... and thanks for blogging. You, and Neddie, Blue Girl, Bobby and a few others are recent additions to my daily itinerary: taken together, your posts help keep me pointed, if not onto the straight and narrow, at least goin down the right path.

6:41 PM  

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